Infidelity UNCOVERED by Luke Shillings

Winning your next argument is the most important thing, right? Join me, Luke Shillings, Relationship and Infidelity Recovery Coach, as I unpick the psychological and emotional reasons behind our desire to be right in arguments, especially in the aftermath of betrayal, which can lead to destroying your relationship . I explore how this need can create a zero-sum game in relationships, leading to increased resentment and conflict. I share personal anecdotes and practical insigh

Welcome to another episode of 'After the Affair' with me, your host, Luke Shillings. In this episode, titled "Healing from Betrayal Using Internal Family Systems (IFS)," I explore how the therapeutic approach of IFS can help both betrayed and unfaithful partners understand and heal from the pain of infidelity. Join me as I delve into the concept of internal parts, how they influence our emotions and behaviours, and practical steps to foster self-compassion and personal growth

In this episode, I explain how individuals might be drawn to different partners for various reasons and how these dynamics can influence infidelity. Through multiple theoretical lenses, including sociocultural, psychological, feminist, economic, and humanistic perspectives, this episode offers a comprehensive understanding of why people might prioritize different aspects of relationships. Key Takeaways: Introduction to the "Lover vs Provider" theory and its evolutionary roots

Discover how the pain of betrayal often extends beyond the physical act, touching on what the affair represented rather than the individual affair partner. In this episode, I explore the emotional dynamics from both the betrayed and unfaithful spouse's perspectives, offering insights into how these narratives can be challenged and transformed for healing and growth. Key Takeaways: The significance of the symbolism of betrayal in the stories we tell ourselves after an affair.

Welcome to another insightful episode of 'After the Affair' with me, your host, Luke Shillings. In this episode, I delve into a common...

In this episode of 'After the Affair,' join me, your host Luke Shillings, as I discover how limiting beliefs can keep you stuck in...

In this episode of 'After the Affair,' I take a deep dive into the neuroscience behind trust and betrayal. Understanding these processes...

Welcome to another episode of "After the Affair." I'm your host, Luke Shillings, and today we're tackling a crucial aspect of recovery...

In this insightful episode of "After the Affair," I delve into the complex phenomenon of hysterical bonding that often follows...

In this episode of 'After the Affair,' join me, Luke Shillings, as I take a look into the fascinating world of polyamory to uncover...

Why don't affairs last? Drawing on both research and personal experiences, join me, Luke Shillings, as I discuss the psychological,...

Ever feel like you're fumbling in the dark when it comes to relationships? You're not alone. Many of us never received a clear guide on...

In this episode of "After the Affair," Caz Grant joins me to explore the intricacies of infidelity in military marriages. We delve into...

In this introspective episode of "After the Affair," join me, Luke Shillings, as I take a closer look at the impact of our innermost...

When betrayal breaks your world apart, it’s easy to feel stuck in the rubble: disoriented, hurt, and unsure who you are anymore. But what...

When you've been betrayed, the pain is overwhelming, and often, it leaves you with more questions than answers. One of the most...

After discovering infidelity, the urge to reach out to the affair partner can be intense. You may be searching for closure, clarity, or...

When infidelity strikes, it’s like stepping into a fog so thick you can’t see the path forward. The emotional chaos, the identity crisis,...

When infidelity hits, it can feel like a violent storm has torn through the very fabric of your life. The ground beneath your feet...

If you've ever found yourself walking on eggshells in your relationship, adjusting your thoughts, behaviours, or even your appearance...