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76. Addicted to an Affair with David Essel
Betrayal often leaves us feeling like victims of someone else’s choices, but what if part of the healing involves confronting our own...

Luke Shillings
40 min read


75. 8 Steps to Healing part 2: Rebuilding and Renewal
When the shock of betrayal begins to subside, you're left with a daunting question: what now? The second half of the healing journey is...

Luke Shillings
14 min read


74. 8 Steps to Healing part 1: Laying the Foundations
After betrayal, knowing where to start can feel overwhelming. The emotional weight, the unanswered questions, the deep grief; none of it...

Luke Shillings
12 min read


73. The Empathy Challenge: Conflict After Infidelity
When you've been betrayed, every conversation can feel like a battlefield. The smallest disagreement becomes loaded with hurt, history,...

Luke Shillings
9 min read


72. How to Get Over Your Ex: With Breakup Coach Dorothy
When betrayal or heartbreak ends a relationship, you might feel stuck: still longing, replaying, unable to fully move on. Whether you’re...

Luke Shillings
35 min read


71. Is Forgiveness Necessary? Can You Reconcile Without It?
Forgiveness after betrayal can feel impossible. You might wonder, Do I have to forgive them to move forward? Or Can we rebuild...

Luke Shillings
14 min read


70. The 3rd Law of Conflict: Can Isaac Newton Help us Heal?
When trust is broken through infidelity, it’s easy to fall into conflict, whether with your partner, yourself, or those around you. But...

Luke Shillings
11 min read


69. Intimacy After Infidelity: Under the Sheets with Sex Expert, Lee-ann Cordingley
Intimacy after infidelity can feel terrifying. When trust has been shattered and emotional safety is compromised, physical closeness may...

Luke Shillings
35 min read


68. Reward or Punishment: Rewriting Our Reward System After an Affair
Why does betrayal feel so devastating? Because it doesn’t just hurt emotionally. It hijacks our brain’s reward system. The love, trust,...

Luke Shillings
11 min read


67. Facing Failure after Infidelity: Shifting the Narrative
Failure. It's a word that can feel like a punch to the gut, especially after infidelity. Whether you feel like you've failed your...

Luke Shillings
8 min read


66. Farewell 2023: A Year of Recovery, Resilience, and Reflection
As the year comes to a close, emotions can feel especially raw. The festive season, while joyful for many, often intensifies the pain of...

Luke Shillings
4 min read


65. Choice or Obligation: Should I stay or leave after the affair?
When your world has been turned upside down by infidelity, even the simplest questions can feel impossibly heavy. You might find yourself...

Luke Shillings
17 min read


64. Benefits of Healing from Infidelity
When you’re in the middle of betrayal recovery, it’s easy to believe that healing is only about surviving the pain of infidelity. But...

Luke Shillings
17 min read


63. What if it was me? Self-Reflection in the Wake of Betrayal
After betrayal, one painful thought haunts many of us: “Was it my fault?” This question can spiral into guilt, shame, and...

Luke Shillings
13 min read


62. Overcoming Thought Addiction after Betrayal
When you've been betrayed, your mind can become your biggest obstacle. Endless “what ifs,” self-blame, and intrusive doubts swirl in your...

Luke Shillings
13 min read


61. Once a Cheater: Possibly a Keeper?
When you’ve been betrayed, it’s easy to fall into the trap of black-and-white thinking, especially with beliefs like “once a cheater,...

Luke Shillings
12 min read


60. Gaslighting an Affair? Take a look in the Mirror
It’s common after betrayal to catch yourself doubting your own mind and feelings. You may question whether you’re overreacting,...

Luke Shillings
12 min read


59. Trust After Betrayal: Is There Hope?
When someone you love betrays you, trust doesn’t just break; it shatters. Rebuilding it can feel impossible, especially when you're also...

Luke Shillings
16 min read


58. Why We Stray: Does Attachment Theory Explain the Unthinkable
If you’ve been betrayed, you’ve likely asked, “Why did this happen?” This episode offers one of the most insightful answers: attachment...

Luke Shillings
14 min read


After the Affair Podcast - What to expect.
If you’re reeling from betrayal and struggling to make sense of your relationship, you’re in the right place. The After the Affair...

Luke Shillings
2 min read
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