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FEELING LOST AND ALONE AFTER BETRAYAL?

BUILD A FUTURE 
YOU CAN
TRUST

If you're reading this, chances are you're going through one of the toughest experiences of your life. The shock and pain of infidelity can shake you to your core, leaving you with questions like, "How did this happen to me?" and "What do I do now?" Fulfilling relationship support is here. I'm Luke Shillings, your guide on this journey of healing and recovery.

Let's make it happen. What's next?

Discussing an affair requires care and understanding. As your coach, I ensure a safe, neutral space. In the complimentary 'Discovery Call', we'll spend 30 minutes in a no-pressure conversation, unlocking valuable insights together.

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Betrayed & broken? You won't believe how these people started living a happy life again

Begin a journey to a more positive you after infidelity

Get rid of negative thoughts, emotions & words. Live a life without regrets & uncertainty. 

PEOPLE WHO FEEL PARALYSED BY BETRAYAL:

THINK

  • I can't believe they betrayed me

  • I can't fix this

  • I don't know what happens next

  • I can't focus at work

  • I thought we were a team

  • I've failed

FEEL

  • Resentment

  • Tired

  • Anger

  • Frustration

  • Undervalued

  • Shame

  • Fear

BEHAVE

  • Snapping at the kids

  • Complaining to friends

  • Over drinking or over eating

  • Little patience with myself or others

  • Ignore problems and hope they just go away

RESULT

  • Not spending quality time with friends or loved ones

  • Struggling to communicate with my partner

  • Not looking after myself

  • Spiralling out of control

WHEN YOU HAVE A PLAN YOU CAN:

THINK

  • I'm not defined by my actions

  • I can fix anything!

  • I'm so proud of my myself

  • I always have my own back

  • I've already won, lets continue the journey

FEEL

  • Joy

  • Confident

  • Trusting

  • Love

  • Motivated

  • Peaceful

  • Forgiving

  • Compassionate

BEHAVE

  • Communicate with ease

  • Laugh with friends

  • Eat well and still enjoy a treat

  • Be understanding and patient with others

  • Overcome obstacles and thrive

RESULT

  • Create a solid future for myself

  • Let one chapter close and a new one to begin

  • Put myself first, from which all my relationships will benefit

  • Have clear boundaries and confidence in my relationships  

It's truly possible!

It's entirely possible to evolve from self-doubt, stress, self-criticism, chaos, fear and resentment to a state of confidence, self-compassion,  understanding and tranquillity, leading to a more fulfilling life.

Here Is What Others Have Said

Don't just take my word for it –learn about those who've walked this path with me and let their journeys inspire your own. My clients' experiences speak volumes about the journey and transformation they've undergone.

“I fell into a dark place in my life when I found out my spouse of eight years was having an affair. I was lost, angry, vengeful;  you name the emotion, I was going through it. I struggled with all these emotions going through my mind and didn`t know how to handle it. I stumbled on a podcast by Luke that offered a different perspective on an affair, so I thought to reach out to him; it was the best decision I ever made. In addition to helping me get unstuck from my funk, he helped me see things differently.

I left a much better person. Ironically, I now see the affair to be one of the best things that ever happened to me because it opened my eyes to lots of other things about me that I didn’t know about myself. Even though I chose not to stay in the relationship, I am happier, a much better father and co-parenting partner with my ex. I like Luke’s approach to coaching because it focused on my development as a person and not so much on the affair itself. If you want to learn skills to help you be at peace with yourself, seek out Luke”

 

REMI / USA

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Here's what to expect in the On Purpose Coaching Program

Weekly 45 minute 1-ON-1  calls

Option to record our  sessions

24/7 email access &
regular accountability
nudges

Optional worksheets
tailored to your needs

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Hi, I’m Luke, and we might just have a few things in common.

I'm a 40-something father of two, with passions that include running, tackling challenges, and bringing new ideas to life. Additionally, I guide others as a relationship coach and host a podcast, focusing on navigating the path to recovery after infidelity.

Life rarely goes as intended. Just a few years ago, I had a seemingly perfect marriage—content, in love, and raising a beautiful family. But everything changed when my wife cheated. I lost my home, no longer lived with my children, and the security of my job wasn’t what it was.


During this painful time, I deepened my existing interest in human psychology, searching for answers to questions like, ‘Why do people do what they do?’ I rebuilt my life, healing from the pain of infidelity and finding inner strength. Now, as a certified relationship coach, I'm dedicated to helping others on their recovery journeys.

Whether you're a betrayed partner seeking support, a spouse grappling with guilt, or someone rebuilding your life after infidelity, I provide a nonjudgmental space, practical tools, and powerful coaching. Together, we'll navigate emotions, rebuild trust, and create a future aligned with your values.

Take the first step towards reclaiming your life. Healing is possible, I'm living proof, and I’m here to support you.
Remember, you're not alone.

AFTER THE AFFAIR

PODCAST

The "After the Affair" podcast offers  transformative insights and practical strategies for  those dealing with the aftermath of infidelity. With  compassion and empathy, it provides a safe space  to explore emotions, rebuild trust, and support  healing.
 
Thought provoking concepts, discussions and  expert interviews, it aims to provide guidance on  forgiveness, communication, and rebuilding intimacy. Join me in the latest episode

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Recent Episodes

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Episode 78

A Story of Betrayal: No Place Like Home

Dive deep into the heart of healing with 'A Story of Betrayal: No Place Like Home,' a poignant episode of the 'After the Affair' podcast.

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Episode 77

The Intricate Dance Between People Pleasing and Infidelity

Join me, Luke Shillings, whilst I unpick the intricate dance between people-pleasing tendencies and the aftermath of infidelity.

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Certifications

  • Professional Certified Coach - The Life Coach School

  • CPD Life Coach - (Level 7 Diploma)

  • QPR Gatekeeper Suicide Prevention Certificate

  • Trauma-Informed Coach - The Centre for Healing 

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